Sunday, March 23, 2014

From Frankenstein Love to Perfect Love


The Frankenstein monster as we are familiar with was created by various pieces of different men (theory), however the original book makes no reference of so. Viktor Frankenstein, the creator of the monster, grew obsessed with creating the creature. The Frankenstein monster was very in tune with the Bible and acknowledged that while Adam was made by the perfect Creator, Satan was the cause of his existence, through obsession and greed. This led me to recall my very own Frankenstein monster that I created without fear of consequences: Love.

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Much like Viktor Frankenstein, I was obsessed with creating something that I, unaware, believed would be perfect. As if I could manipulate my brain into believing that it will be okay, driven by misled determination and seeing with scaled eyes, I was unaware of my true motives. Much like the assumed notion that Frankenstein was the product of various men, I too was trying to produce a perfect love with various men. For example, if I found myself attracted to one guy for his humor, then I will only reach out to him for a laugh and a good time. If there was another guy, that paid me many flattering comments, then I will purposefully dress to impress him to feed my ego and if two guys happened to have met my needs sexually but in different manners, then…well ya know. Whereas most people do this in a manner of dating “Who can I see myself falling in love with and standing to be around with longer,” I did it all at once. As you may look at this objectively and think “Sounds like you were a slut and a gold digger” well, objectively, you are right. However, while I was orchestrating this ten-man charade, my thought processes were more along the lines of “It isn't my fault I like them for different reasons.” No justification for my actions and how I used these guys, but the ultimate goal, as it may be with so many of you, was love and feel desired.

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Jesus showed me how Love really looks. Love is not characteristics that formulate a person such as humor, wits, and good looks, etc. but instead Love is who someone is. That someone is God (1 John 4:8, NKJV) and He walked this earth through Jesus and He died on the crossLove died on a cross so that it [blood] can pour over all of us who are ready to receive this Love as it was intended. The more I read my bible and the more I pursued Christ, the more I realized how jaded I was by love on human terms. Was it my fault that I believed that love was to be found in humans? No. We grow up listening to it everywhere, in songs of how other people “complete” them and in movies where they will declare people as their “everything.” We may fall victim to these voices of the world however we are to still hold ourselves accountable for our actions, words and behaviors. As Apostle Paul described himself as the “chief” of all sinners (1 Timothy 1:15, NKJV), he owned up to his blind actions of his past and even current shortcomings of his present. 

Love is not what you can find in others that will help you tolerate them, but it is a choice.(Romans 5:8, NKJV). There is only One Love to aim for with everyone and that is unconditional because that is how Christ Jesus Loved us and has called us to Love others (John 13:34-35, NKJV).What makes God’s Love perfect is not that He sees the good in us and therefore keeps hope alive, like we are fooled into believing regarding our love for others, but that He chooses to Love us with our flaws unconditionally. Love that we are to look forward to choose to do daily and doesn't carry fear in any manner [even a fear of losing it] (1 John 4:18, NKJV). We as humans are incapable of Loving like this on our own strength, which is why we have the Holy Spirit (the same Holy Spirit that lived in Jesus and raised Him from the dead) dwelling within us, so it can Love, as intended, through us. Take a moment and step out of your body and reflect on your life objectively, and see if you have embraced Love in this way or if you are still seeking love in others (your friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, spouse, children and family).  If God has it in my future for me to have a husband, there is no other Love I would rather Love him with than the Love of God and I pray this for you as well. A precious, cherished, different Love than what we are use to. Frankenstein Love is just a poor imitation of misconceived perfection of a perfect Love that truly does exist but can only be found in and through Love Himself. It is time for us as women [and men] to stop pursuing and settling with bits and pieces of love and embrace LOVE Himself to His entirety. Say “goodbye” to Frankenstein Love and say “hello” to God. 


“That He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be Strengthened with Might through HIS Spirit in the Inner Man, that Christ may Dwell in Your Hearts through Faith; That You, being Rooted and Grounded in Love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the Width and Length and Depth and Height-- to know the Love of CHRIST which passes knowledge; that you may be Filled with the Fullness of GOD." 
- Ephesians 3:16-19, NKJV


References

  • Shelley, Mary. Frankenstein, or The Modern Prometheus. New York: Oxford UP, 1994.
  • NKJV, New King James Version Bible

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